Got a Date? All You Need To Know About Body Speak
Last updated on March 29th, 2017 at 07:07 pm
If you did a quick survey by asking your friends, colleagues and acquaintances what qualities they looked for in a mate, in all probability high on the list will be body type.
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The commonly propagated cliche is that most men prefer the “mannequin” European beauty epitomized by long legs, tiny waist, perfect breasts and sizable rear. A good number of men are said to prefer the more voluptuous type- an ‘African figure’ so to speak.
On the other hand, Hollywood has made it sure that most women ready to mingle dream of tall, dark, square-jawed sculptured males with a nice butt to boot. This obsession on the body can mistakenly be dismissed as a sign of the highs sexual perversion of the 21st century or more scientifically explained as an intrinsic human need that arises from the nature of life itself.
As it is claimed, life in which ever form, exists to primarily to achieve its prime goal: to selfishly propagate itself. Therefore, human beings by virtue of being complex forms of life are no exception to this rule; thus the apparent focus on sexuality and reproduction potential in the search for a life partner.
As much as this argument may pull some weight, studies in anthropology and psychology reveal that this fascination with the body is as old as humans. In investigating the evolution of language, it has emerged that speech is a rather new communication tool. Body language is thought to have preceded speech and to date remains an integral part of human communication.
Body language consists of a host of signs that include smiles, body posture, gesture and touch that communicate a thought, idea and even emotion. The problem with body language lies not in its absence, but rather on the lack of its recognition by many of us. Body language is like a movie that if well watched, could reveal much more than words could.
For instance when out for a date, the distance that your date keeps between you and them could be an
indicator of how well your charms have been received. However, as much as body language is revealing, as it is mostly unintentional and subconsciously conveyed, just like the spoken word it is liable to manipulation.
We are all guilty of it: Like flashing that fake smile when in actual sense you loathe the person. Women are constantly accused of using tears to get their way. Those adept at flirting their way through life know that a touch here and there is sure to soften the target. Politicians, businessmen, musicians and religious leaders use gestures to drive their message home.
So how do you tell if a person means what they are saying both in body and spoken word?
The trick lies in effective listening and interpreting every gesture and word in context. What do I mean by this? Everything that is being said should be collectively viewed rather than singularly analyzed. To use an analogy to communicate clearer: A constellation is not made up of one star.
Back to our question: How do you know if your date/lover is into you?
Look at the pupils. Dilated pupils mean that the person likes what they are seeing, unless of course they are on drugs. Unlike a smile, a flirtatious flirt or a lean forward towards you, dilated pupils cannot be faked. The eyes are indeed the gateways to the soul.